Some people are happy with themselves.Happy with their mediocrity,content with their capabilities which are far outweighed by their limitations.Happy with their orientation,both social and professional.There is only so much you can push them.Hoping they will ever compete to win - is a waste of your own time.
Often such people show delusions of grandeur.When congratulated by another of their clan,their minds extend the applaud,as resounding from the whole world.Where is the need to do better,to question one's performance,when one is so sure of oneself?
When they are confronted with quality better than themselves,they attribute extrinsic factors to such greater successes.
For example,when a mediocre sweeper comes across a superior one ,he may attribute the superiority to the colleague's wife,who,he argues,creates a more peaceful household than his own.Or to the children ,who create lesser trouble than his own.Or to a happier childhood.Or to a better car than his own!Could be any reason,but one which falls outside the persona.
But middling,has its own positives.Such people live happier,longer,more satisfied with life's simple pleasures,of perhaps a football match on television,or an invitation at a neighbors.They are susceptible to far lower conspiracies.They have much lesser finances to manage by the time they are old.They usually brush off their own difficulties as they do to others,they usually teach lower mastery goal orientation to their children.Their philosophy is simple 'when you cant do it,just find an excuse outside your self'.
They have far lesser expectations from life.They are jealous of almost nothing,perhaps the only rare exception can be the man their wife is 'too friendly' with.There too, their jealousy will not cause greater damage than frequent grumbling.Plus they have great many number of friends.In a word such people are benign.Such people have fewer conflicts and lower frustrations to deal with.
Is this,then, the secret road to happiness ?
